Forever Valentine.

Valentine's Day is a time when people show feelings of love and affection. But do you know Valentine Week is followed by Anti- Valentine week, for those who are single or heartbroken. It starts from the next day of Valentine day after romance and love is over......Over....?????

Well this is the word that I cannot get over with....Over....

As I said in my last years post that I don't believe love to be a gift wrapped in shinny paper... But Yes, I believe it's worth celebrating, it is meant to live in every moment...

(If you wish to read my Valentine views here is the link to "Your Kind of Love" - https://tryrandom.blogspot.in/2018/02/your-kind-of-love.html?m=1) 

Let's start with Valentines day....You found the one, one you believe to be your soul mate.. does things end here at expressing love...What next????

You get into a relationship...Get married....

A successful relationship requires falling in love many times, always with the same person....

Love is a thread that binds two people..but If you think a strong, healthy relationship can survive  the test of time depending only on love, it's not that simple.

You cannot sit back and wait for relationship to work... Great relationships require effort, care, co-operation, commitment to endure and evolve. Both the partner need to work together every single day to bring out the best...

Every relationship goes through tough times..Ups and downs...There's happinesss and suffering, cries and laughter, joys and pains, harmony and conflict...Only percentage varies from one relationship to other....

Well celebrating Valentine week alone won't help unless you take Anti Valentine a positive way....

So here is my post inspired from Anti Valentine days-  Anti Valentine for couples....I am not a relationship expert but i am married for almost 6 years now so got a little experience and this is purely my viewpoint...

I'll stick to my belief that Valentine is to be celebrated everyday so is Anti Valentine....

So let’s find something positive and have not only celebrate a great week but great relationship everyday.....

1. Slap Day: "Slap the Unrealistic" from the Unrealistic Expectation....And the final product is Expectations....

Having reasonable and healthy expectations is important to keep you going. Perfectionism is one such  Unrealistic expectation... It's one's own Perception... Hence needs no definition....

Never compare your realtionship with those of other...And don't go competing...


2. Kick Day :  "Kick the Ego" .....Kick hard...Harder to kick it farther that it could not come back....

Ego is the only requirement to destroy any relationship because all bad qualities centre round it...It starts with self destruction and results in misery....

Don't let Ego eat away your relationship...

3. Perfume Day : "Spray the perfume of HOPE."

Hope is an essential ingredient to sustain any relationship through difficult times. When despair sets in, the relationship becomes stagnant which leads to stress and frustration...

So Don't loose hope and encourage the partner to be hopeful. Running away from problems won't help. There a solution to every problem...you just need to find the suitable one...

4. Flirting day:  " Don't flirt with Communication"

Well I pesonally find the flirting a complete negative word ...Not going by the romantic version and getting it more closer to reality (if you ask me it's a bitter truth, in real world it means Talking...) I say flirt with something is to consider an idea but not very seriously..

So don't flirt with communication...You need to take out time to talk...

Lack of Communication causes resentment and conflicts...If something is bothering you then talk about it face to face...

Don't let silence destroy your relationship...


5. Confession Day : "Confess the Mistakes..."

Everybody makes mistakes...Nobody is perfect..But Owning up to your mistakes, your wrong doings,  lies or misconceptios will help you feel relaxed by getting rid of the guilt.

Be humble and ask for forgiveness...And promise not to repeat the mistakes in future...

6. Missing Day: "Seek dreams that went Missing.."

Work on yourself, your dreams...Because when you start working on  yourself, a sense of fulfillment fills your heart...

When happiness will be felt within you will automatically start transferring it to others....

Like You loved dancing/ Singing/ Painting/ Cooking..... but have no time for them due to hectic schedule.... Let's seek for the hidden dreams...Don't let them hide for to long..

Find little joy for yourself and do support dreams of your partner...

7. Breakup Day: "Break up with the bad memories..."

Even good relationships can have bad memories. But it's past and you don't have a time machine to correct the things....Best is to let them go....

Don't let it ruin your present....Make space for new memories and thats only possible when you break up with all the bad memories...

Lets celebrate Anti Valentine a positive way and not let the feeling of hatred blew away the fire of love from your heart.....

Relationships are meant to last forever.....

Be a part of my little positive twist in Anti Valentine to enjoy many more Valentines...(Not to forget the daily dose of love and not just a week.....)

Sooo.....

Start working....